Let’s talk about big changes.
You get married, you move in with your new husband and must figure out how to live together. Big changes!
Then, you get pregnant, and your body suddenly is changing in every way possible, and you can’t recognize yourself anymore. Big change!
Your baby comes. All of a sudden, you have the most perfect bundle of love, screaming, snuggles, diaper changes, and not sleeping you’ve ever seen, and you have to figure out how to keep the baby alive, yourself sane, your husband from freaking out, and your house clean, and EVERYTHING. Big change!
Then suddenly you have to leave your baby? To go to work? That sounds ridiculous! But you have to do it, so you do. You muddle through each day until you get to see your precious baby again. This might be the biggest and hardest change.
How does one handle changes? Especially without going crazy? After going through multiple big changes in my own life, I have a few strategies and tips from how I survived.
Big changes tips:
- Prayer: Nothing good comes without prayer. Talking to God about your fears, what’s making you sad, and begging for aid in the process can alleviate at least a little bit of the pressure of the big changes.
- Find a routine: In the midst of big changes, being able to rely on a routine that you are comfortable with and helps you feel successful is a valuable asset.
- Talk with, and work with your spouse: You and your spouse are a team! Take turns taking a break, laugh together, vent to each other, and hug and kiss each other when things big changes hard.
- Plan something to look forward to: Even if it is something small (a date night, a walk at the park, a night out with girlfriends), or something big (a trip out of town, a big party, buying something you’ve really wanted), treating yourself with something in the future help the big changes not seem so drastic.
- Seek help if you need it: Needing help is nothing to be ashamed of. Being able to talk to someone about what you’re going through, or the feelings (positive or negative) can really help alleviate the feeling of dread you might feel in big changes.
- Surrender all things to God: In the midst of big changes, it is hard to remember God knows what is happening. He knows will happen as well! Trust that He will take care of you.
Don’t forget, you can do hard things
Big changes are a part of life. They can be scary and seem daunting or insurmountable in the moment, but once you get past them, the pride and success you feel makes the change worth it.
By relaying on God, your spouse, your family and friends, and your own ability, you can make even the biggest change seem more manageable.
You are capable of conquering big changes, and becoming the person God created you to be.
Praying for you.